hello there, friend,
your post reminds me of a poem a friend wrote out for me right before my twins were born called, 'babies don't keep'. the last four lines are:
The cleaning and scrubbing will wait til tomorrow,
For children grow up, as I've learned to my sorrow,
So quiet down cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.
i've clung to those lines, at times... knowing relationships are more important than a tidy house. i grew up in a very comfortable house... stacks of books were everywhere, as were clutter and paper. i preferred to keep my own room pretty tidy and before friends came over i spent a lot of time organizing and cleaning the rest of the house.
so far, i haven't found the balance between tidy, organized, and comfortable. i have been thinking about it, as you know. and i have been wondering how to stop doing it all. there are seasons when i've been wise enough to ask for help from either my husband or children, and there are seasons when that seems like too much work.
i want to teach my own children to be responsible for more... to encourage them to pitch in and help when they see that something needs to be done, because that's what you do when you are part of a community - whether it's family or something larger. there are lessons to be learned right here at home.