Hello there, friend,
Yesterday, my day started early with a sick child. I hadn't slept well the night before, and found myself impatient and angry that my daughter was sick. She would have to stay home from school, I would miss my workout, and the day would be totally derailed. But once we got through the worst of her sick and I got her into a warm bath, I knew we'd be okay.
As I went through the day, I kept repeating to myself: Only what matters. It's interesting to spend the day with that phrase, asking as I find myself doing something if it matters. Because, unfortunately, a lot of things don't matter. A lot of it is distracting from what really matters.
Which brings me to your friend's suggestion to shed. Yes! For both of us, now is a time to evaluate and let go. It's funny to me that we've sort of landed in the same place this year despite having such different guiding words last year. Seems to me you have to give yourself a chance to reset once in a while, and this year is a good time for both of us to do that.