hello there, friend,
phew... sometimes this parenting gig is so challenging. it challenges old assumptions i've held for years, challenges my thinking and my behavior. i try to remember being 12 or 15, and i can remember the feelings i had at those ages. i can remember the desire to be seen and heard by my family, even as i began pushing them away and rolling my eyes on the inside. i remember feeling alone, i remember how difficult is was sometimes to reach out, and i remember how critical it felt to connect.
this morning i'm trying to remember all these things, i'm trying to be kind and gentle. i'm trying to find reasonable and even mutual solutions to problems, trying to set limits and boundaries and above all to do so with love.