Thursday, February 18, 2016

Hello there, friend,

When I think about myself at age 12 and 15, my life was a mess. I felt so alone, misunderstood. I was caught between two parents who couldn't make their relationship work, married or not. I remember telling my friend how much the line from that Bush song resonated with me: I'm never alone, I'm alone all the time. She didn't understand, but she tried. She loved me all the same. I was so grateful.

I would steal away to my bedroom in the evenings, pouring myself into lines of poetry or listening to music that made me feel something, mostly understood. I'm sure none of this is helpful to you as you parent your beloved children. What I know is that childhood and adolescence and young adulthood and middle adulthood is so hard. We are all in the midst of struggle, and it's a wonder that we can ever love and take care of each other. Except that we have to hang onto each other because this is it. This is what life is about: Give love and grace and mercy. Repeat.